Who needs to hear this?
It is not selfish to set boundaries to protect your time or energy.
It's not selfish to speak up and use your voice.
It is not selfish to stand up for yourself or stand your ground.
It's not selfish to put your needs first. Seriously.
It is not selfish to make choices that are best for you, or to live life your way.
It is not selfish to walk away from what has become unhealthy.
It is not selfish to change your mind.
It is not selfish to speak your truth.
It's not selfish to do what brings you joy.
Yes, care needs to be given to how some of these are executed and most certainly not everyone executes them well. But these in and of themselves do not make someone selfish.
Let's normalize doing what we need to do to care for our own wellbeing and energy rather than feeling wrong or inadequate for doing so.
"If standing my sacred ground, knowing my worth, setting boundaries, and prioritizing my own energy means to you that I'm selfish, then let me proudly live up your descripted version of me." (Tara Isis Gerris)