I coach and guide other people AND I still work on my own stuff. I still have my own moments of fear and doubt. I still have to work through my own challenging emotions. I still have to check myself and my beliefs. I have to test my assumptions, debunk old stories, and get out of my own way. Sometimes I over-complicate things. I know I have a tendency to over-think and try to solve problems that aren't even there yet.
Sometimes it feels like I take giant leaps forward and then get stuck. Other times it feels like I take one step forward and then ten steps back. I don't have it all figured out and I still make mistakes.
Rather than getting frustrated with myself for falling back to old habits, I remind myself that I am human and that this is all a part of my change and growth process.
I've been reacting to life a certain way for over 40 years! It's not fair to expect that I change all of my unproductive habits and patterns overnight. Just the awareness that I'm getting stuck in unproductive habits is a sign of my growth. Because before, I wasn't even aware that I was doing it.
I know that going through my own experiences and challenges have made me a better listener, a better friend, and a better coach.
When I work with my clients, everything is welcome. My goal is to create a safe space for self-exploration, learning, and change. I want my clients to practice new behaviors without feeling judged - even if things don't go as planned. I do my best to listen, show support, and help them get down to the heart of the matter. There is no judgment of their experience.
And there is no judgment here, either. If you feel frustrated with your own stuff sometimes, know that I get you because I've been there. I invite you to extend yourself compassion. You're human and real change takes time. Be patient and gentle with yourself as you keep moving forward. Know that I am in your corner, offering silent cheers of encouragement and support.