At various points in our life, especially during major life transitions, we may feel called to examine our priorities, reflect on how satisfied we are with our life, and consider if we are living the way we want to be living. During these times of self-reflection, we are invited to explore the question 'What REALLY matters to me at this point in my life?’ We may bring more attention to our self-healing and personal growth needs.
We contemplate questions like:
“How can I best nurture myself so I can give generously to others?”
“What is getting in the way of becoming the best version of myself?”
“How am I being called to serve?"
This exploration creates meaningful attunement and a strong internal motivation that enables us to focus our energy on the most important actions and we let go of the rest. We allow our heart to guide us through our experiences and relationships.
When we lead from the heart, it’s easier to balance self-focused and other-focused energy. We find harmony between pursuing our own dreams and goals, fulfilling our own needs, and expressing our individuality, AND doing our part to meet the needs of others and contributing to our community and the greater good. We understand that it’s not an either/or – we don’t choose between taking care of our self and taking care of others. We know that both are important.
We take care of ourselves, AND we serve others with compassion and love. When we are choosing in alignment with our heart, we feel more grounded, centered, fulfilled and satisfied. We feel passion and enthusiasm.
When we are out of alignment with our heart, however, we may feel frustrated, unproductive, or depleted. We may procrastinate or avoid working on our goals. Or perhaps we react to others in ways that cause us to feel embarrassment, guilt, or shame.
Our opportunity is to engage in an ongoing process of self-observation and self-inquiry, paying attention to our behavior and noticing when our choices are not aligned to our heart. Through self-observation, we notice our reactions, we learn from our experiences, and we get out of our own way so transformation can happen.
If you could benefit from support in reconnecting with your heart, releasing what doesn't align, and restoring your energy for the most important things, let's schedule a discovery session to see how I can help.
Do you ask for what you need from the Universe? Are you open to receiving it when it comes? I was just sorting through a stack of papers on my desk this morning and found this sticky note I wrote a couple months back. At that point, I had realized I was ready for my next mentor to help me get going on my business initiatives - but I wasn't *exactly* sure what kind of help I needed or who the right person would be to help me get there.
So I wrote on the sticky note: I'm open to meeting my next mentor/teacher. Help me see him/her when she/he appears and say yes to receiving the help.
Within a month of writing that sticky note, I had a virtual coffee date with a woman I met through a random Facebook group. As I learned more about her background and how she helps people, I knew I needed to meet with her again - this time as a potential client of her business. It became very clear during our discovery session that I needed what she was offering and that she came into my life to be my next mentor.
I am GREAT at what I do. But working *on* my business - the more business-y side of things - is not my strong suit. When December comes, I do not want to find myself stuck in the exact same place. I know where I'm headed, but I couldn't clearly see the path forward. I need to make big leaps this year, and I knew I needed support. So I trusted my intuition and energy - and said yes to working with her.
But more importantly, I said YES to myself and YES to my business. These kinds of 'expenses' are not really expenses. They are INVESTMENTS.
In choosing to work with her, I am investing in myself, my business, my dreams, my mission, my calling, my gifts, and my future.
It can be so hard to justify spending money on ourselves and our dreams. I see this frequently with women. We hesitate. We consider everything else we 'should' be spending the money on instead. We feel guilty about spending money on something like our personal growth, our self-care, or our dreams.
I invite you to pause for a moment and consider: What is your biggest challenge right now? Which of your needs are not currently being met? Which desires or dreams have been put on the back burner?
How are these challenges and unmet needs impacting your life? Is it draining your energy? Impacting your health or your happiness? Limiting your ability to spend more time and energy in more enjoyable ways?
One year from now, do you want your life to look and feel the same as it does now?
If not, what kind of support do you need to help you make the necessary changes and take the big leaps?
My expertise lies in the realms of personal/spiritual growth; self-care and self-love; and emotional, spiritual and relational wellbeing. I am a self-healing catalyst, a spiritual guide and a restorative facilitator. I am here to help you RECONNECT with your heart, RELEASE that which is draining you, and RESTORE your energy so you can be an even better mom, friend, and partner.
If you need support in these areas, let's schedule a discovery session to see if we'd be a good fit.
If you're anything like me, you probably feel like you need to hold yourself together - ALL. THE. TIME. It may be hard to ask for help. It may be hard to receive support from others. It may be hard to let go. It may be hard to stop *doing* all the time and just rest. Making time for relaxation and renewal is critical for our whole-self wellbeing. Living in chronic stress is unhealthy and impacts our mental and emotional state, and takes a toll on our body.
I have come to love the practice of Restorative. Since there's no 'doing' in Restorative, it was very challenging to begin this new practice at first. I felt like I was wasting time, just lying around 'doing nothing.' But I quickly learned that this practice held many benefits for me.
Restorative forces me to slow down and rest. The various props help create a supportive environment for complete relaxation of the parts of my body that are used to holding themselves up. In allowing these areas to soften, I can completely relax. Full relaxation creates space, expansiveness and openness that allows the physical, mental and emotional tension to melt away and invites a sense of ease and calm. Creating an expansive space also allows trapped emotions to rise, so they can be processed and released. I see that I don't have to hold myself together ALL the time - that it's okay to let go.
When was the last time you allowed yourself to completely and deeply rest... with no movement, no effort, and not worrying about your to-do list?
If it's been awhile, reach out and let's explore how I can support your relaxation and wellbeing needs through Restorative and other practices.
Having a home we love is a form of sacred self care. We may not love *everything* about our physical home.... but we can still create spaces we love by focusing on what brings us joy and meets our needs. Creating a personal haven that offers comfort and nourishment supports us in relaxing and recharging.
This room is my sacred space, my exercise room, and my work space. This room isn't perfect... it's the coldest room in my apartment and the one where I hear the most noise from the neighborhood and nearby streets. Even though it's not perfect, it is still my favorite room. I've set it up in such a way that even with the chilly temp and outside noise, I can find complete presence and comfort here.
I made this imperfect room work perfectly for me and my needs. I need to feel calm, present, and nourished while practicing my spiritual, self care, and self development rituals. AND I need to feel inspired and energized when working out and when doing my work.
So I meet all those needs in a way that works for me. I bring nature indoors and have plants along all four walls. I hung twinkle lights and use several desk lamps for soft and gentle lighting. I have a small speaker in here to play music and drown the noise when needed. I have several blankets scattered around the room for warmth. Decor is mostly the plants, but I do display a few other things that have personal and spiritual significance. No matter which purpose my room is fulfilling at any moment, it is arranged in a way to support me.
There isn't a right or wrong way to create the spaces we need in our home. What matters is what will work for us.
If you could use some guidance and inspiration for your home spaces, reach out and let's schedule a 1-1 to see how I can help.